It takes two to Tango.
Your conscious and your subconscious Tango.
Your subconscious informs your conscious when it wants to Tango. Nice.
You and another person Tango.
You and a group Tango.
You and a horse Tango.
Each has programming – genetic and life experience.
One is quite a Tango dancer. One hates the Tango.
Each has objectives – primary and secondary.
One wants vitality. One wants comfort.
One wants what it wants. One wants to give you what you need.
There are contexts – momentums and environments, circumstances and states of being.
No Tango at a funeral. Likely Tango at a Tango festival. Headache = No Tango.
Then there are communications among and between the parties.
Unspoken – Visual.
Spoken – Auditory.
At Y Worlds the objectives models represent “what is”.
At Y Worlds the NETS models represent “first principles”.
Watch as the two parties begin to communicate. To determine if they will Tango and how they will Tango and when they will Tango and where they will Tango and what they will wear and……
The two are separate until they connect. The basis of the connection is a collaboration. The basis of the collaboration involves exchanges among the objectives and programming and contexts and communications of the 2 parties that form bonds around Tango. The stronger the bond, the stronger the Tango. The Tango is autopoeitic. It originates and evolves and then dissipates according to the exchanges within the objectives, programming, contexts and communications between the parties. The Tango is a systemic form among a multitude of systems.
When two people consider the Tango, there is “what is”.
They each bring their objectives, their states, their programming, their contexts and their communications. The interplay among them results in a Tango or no Tango. So the concept of Tango becomes part of the context of understanding the exchange. The meaning is not what happens when two people get together. The meaning becomes whether they Tangoed or not, and only then, if no Tango occurred, an understanding of what the “not” consisted of.
A third party observer experiences the exchange in a different dimension than each of the parties participating in the exchange. Only when all three observers come together can we, the fourth parties, understand what occurred and why, with best knowledge.
First Principles – Y Worlds
Adopting a Y Worlds perspective, the “what is” understanding switches into a NETS understanding.
When the two parties interact, there is an immediate first principles assessment:
Did the other come with an orientation toward Nurture, Equality, Truth and Systems?
Are they open to the other? Or do they have strong self oriented agendas?
Do they each wish to nurture themselves and the other with an equality of perception?
Do they each consciously try to avoid slant, and pursue best knowledge?
Do they each subconsciously avoid slant, and pursue nurture, equality and best knowledge?
Despite and because of their framing motivations, objectives, contexts, states, programming, and communications, can they transcend slant and focus on the moment and the opportunities for nurture, equality, truth and systems?
Do they follow a proof process leading to or from NETS?
When two parties approach an exchange, an interaction or a project, Y World’s first principles ground the understanding of the entire experience through the lens of NETS. The inherited non-NETS approach is to let what will happen unfold as “what is” without attempting to understand the manifold systemic forces in play.
Now we can deconstruct these first principles into some simple tangible forms:
Does the other person care about me and my objectives within my context?
Does the other person try to see the bigger systemic pictures?
Does the other person’s inheritance and programming severely narrow their capacity to be open and always listening and learning and trying and caring?
Does the other person demand control and winning, or creativity, collaboration, discovery and creation?
Does the other person carry deep scars that do not heal?
Do I carry deep scars that do not heal?
Do we both communicate and find bonds that hold us together?
It takes two to Tango.
- Eye Contact.
- Form within Framework.
- Leading. Following.
- Teaching. Learning.
- Nurture, Equality, Truth and Systems.
When the Tango bond forms, when there is a Tango, it is a transcendent experience for the participants, the observers, and the imaginers. It is the epitome of NETS. Every interaction among people involves a Tango. The first decision is whether to dance, the second is how. We live our lives dancing with ourselves, with loved ones, with strangers. We live our lives watching for dance partners. We live our lives missing opportunities to dance. And we live our lives dancing with people who do not establish bonds of NETS. Lets Tango.
Y Worlds. November.Echo.Tango.Sierra.
A Tango of Mind and Body.